and I are often been asked "What happened next"? Even many of
our friends ask why we didn't include the rest of the story on our
website. My response has always been to them that I thought it was more
affective when our guest heard it from us setting at our breakfast
table, but I have decided to share this with other who want to know, but
are unable to stay with us. So if you want to hear the story at our
table, stop reading and come join us for breakfast.
back to the story.
was at this point, traveling down the road on the way to the courthouse,
that Retha prayed a silent prayer. "Lord, I guess the battle is
over, I have done all I know to do. I guess this is it."
happened next, at least to us, was quite extraordinary and a little hard
to believe, but I assure you, I am not stretching the truth. It caught
us so off guard that it caused us to look at each other and laugh for
the first time, together, in over a year.
were in Retha's car. She had the radio set to a Contemporary Christian
music station. On that station they of course played music, but they
also aired short segments by different Christian teachers, one of which
was Dr. James Dobson's "Focus on the Family Minute".
she, Retha, reach out and turn on the radio, at that moment in time the
station happened to be airing a segment of the "Focus on the Family
Minute." Retha just so happened to turn it on, not at the
beginning, but after the segment had started, at the precise moment in
time, when the very first words we heard were that of Dr. James Dobson
saying "Let me tell you, if you are on your way to seek how
to get a divorce, let me tell you, there is no good reason to get a
divorce!" What he said after that, we have no idea. It didn't
matter what he said after that, that was all we needed to hear.
proceeded to pull over to the side of the road and turned off the car. I
looked at Retha and told her "It's not that I don't want to be
married to you, it's that I don't want to be married in the way that we
have been married". So I started the car and made a U-turn to
change the direction in which we were going, literally and figuratively.
am not going to tell you that it was all easy after that, it was only
the beginning of the transformation in both of us, our marriage, and the
rest of our lives.
of the chapters in the Bible that meant so much to me at that time was
Isaiah 55, especially verses 6 - 13. First it took us forsaking our ways
and thoughts and then finding His ways and His thoughts. When that
happen, it sets things in motion for a true transformation to take
everyone that reads this story may think that "God Intervened"
by causing all of the events that day to fall in line so precisely that
those words would come out of the radio at the moment we would hear them
or was it just coincidence? It dose not matter either way to me, because
the real Intervention was with in us. Those words could have come out,
we could have heard them, then shrugged it off as coincidence and kept
driving toward a different destination.
and I are so thankful to God for the opportunity of a life with Him as
our guide. We know without any doubt in our minds that He wants to be
involved within the practical day to day events of our lives. What Retha
and I want more than all else is to enter His rest and most of all, to be
a blessing to our guest and to others.
God Richly Bless You Today;
and Retha Strickland
P.S. We would like to add a little disclaimer.
Both Retha and I understand
that there are times when divorce is the only option. We are just
telling our story as it happened to us. We in no way are critical or judgmental
toward those who have divorced.
It absolutely takes two
people, fully committed to making a marriage work for it to be successful.